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Shhhh… I won’t tell if you don’t.

Do you wish there was a class you could take to learn what to do between the sheets with a woman? It is just something guys don’t talk about much. It’s not like your dad pulls you aside when you are 17 and explains the intricacies of going down on a lady. There is every
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I’m 5 days late…

The realisation can send a feeling of sheer terror through any female who is not actively trying to have a baby. Telling your best friend is possibly the first time you verbalise it… I recently had this discussion with my best friend, but it was for a completely different reason! I just turned 48, a
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AshleyMadison… Actions and Consequences

Would you?… Could you?… Have you?… Having an affair or cheating whilst in a monogamous relationship seems to be an act, for many, of repeat offenders. The majority of us has a specific opinion about those who cheat. Chances are you have cheated or have been cheated on at least once in your life. It
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The pleasure and pain… being a girl.

Someone has to birth the brand new humans… as females we are given the equipment to do just that. It can be painful, scary, messy and often surprising in many ways… sometimes things don’t go according to carefully laid plans, sometimes we end up with a boy when secretly hoping for a girl or vice
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The safest sex…

Masturbation… masturbation… masturbation… did you cringe a little even reading the word? Modern civilisation, for the most part, has us believe sexual self-pleasuring is not to be spoken of in polite company… let alone actually engaging in it! Did you know that babies in utero are often scanned with their hands at their genitals… and
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When it’s over…

Relationship breakups are a hideous part of life! Most of us have been through one or two and we rarely hear it was a ‘mutual decision’…’we are all good’… If you are the leaver, you have possibly been pondering how to call it quits for a while and if you are the leavee, it very
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THAT talk with your kids..

Uuhhhg… Yes, talking about sex with your offspring! A vast majority of parents really struggle with talking to their kids about sex. The biggest issue is that when you think it is time to bite the bullet and actually do it, it is possibly too late. If your kids are approaching or in the teenage
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Is your Work Life Balance out of kilter?

It’s one of those phrases that is bandied around so often, sometimes we don’t even register it anymore. How much time did you spend studying and working your way up the ranks of your career path? You have spent countless hours, weeks and months honing your skills, talking to the right people, going to the
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Are we there yet? Why you are not ‘coming’ together…

So what is all the fuss about? Why do movies, books and even porn flicks send us messages that when enjoying intimate time with our lover we must climax at the same time? Is it any wonder many of us scan the net looking for info about sex and sexuality? Wondering if we are normal…
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Fifty Shades of …Fiction

  I understand those who see just the depiction of a controlling man over a girl with little experience as inappropriate. And I will never condone a relationship where one party feels controlled and manipulated. That said… this is a MOVIE people… I don’t know why there is so much controversy about this movie. It
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Happily Single?

Is there such a thing? We are not all meant to be in a relationship at least that is what those who are having trouble finding someone will say. Our social norms are definitely changing. As little as 50 years ago it was highly unusual to hear of a couple separating and divorcing. Back then
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Internet dating profile…

Internet dating profile… Is yours killing your chances? Writing your own online dating profile can be a daunting task. We are quite used to putting our best self forward on a resume or CV to get a job or promotion, but ask someone to write a positive, accurate, interesting couple of paragraphs about themselves as
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Guy stuff…

Why is it that guys (most of them) just love cars… car races, classic cars, doing up cars, buying new cars…? I also know plenty of ladies who are into cars in some way too, however it seems built into the genetics of our males to love car stuff! It is top of mind this
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Relationship Bliss…

Relationship Bliss…Perfection is impossible, we are humans, we all have things we want and things we need. Sometimes these wants and needs are met and sometimes not. How happy you are in your relationship really depends on this balance and your perception of it. For some they find a partner who more often than not
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THAT time of the month… Girls just hate it!

Menses is the correct terminology, however girls have hundreds of names for our period, some of the tried and true are… Red Zone, Aunt Flo, the painters are in, leak week, big red and of course the curse… Some sound like the titles for horror movies! We hate it because it feels like nature making
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The Relationship NOPE List…

This is funny… and for many, our answers are a definite yes or no, either way. There is not much grey area. It’s mostly for the girls, but with so many fabulous metro males around now, some of them apply to you too. Take a few minutes to read through it… let me know if
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The Latest Male contraceptive…

The guys at Parsemus Foundation are working hard to bring you an amazing new birth control option, Vasalgel. Currently in trials, it is hoped the release date will be some time in 2016. For those married and/or in mutually monogamous relationships, the use of condoms is often abandoned, once you have both established a clean
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Fetish Friday… Transvestism

I am adding this to the Fetish section, when in fact transvestism is no longer technically viewed by the Psychology schools, as a fetish. I do believe a vast majority of the general populace does see it in this way, so I’m writing today to clarify this area. True transvestism refers to those who dress
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Online dating… would you?

An old friend of mine is setting up a new online dating website and recently asked me to assist by filling in a survey. I happily helped out, and it got me thinking… For those of you who do not already know, I met my (current) husband via an online dating site, so of course
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Fetish Friday…

Our unusual topic this week is Partialism. So first of all, what is it exactly? As the name would suggest, this fetish is about parts of the body, where the person who is being turned on by particular body part/s and the rest of the body is of little consequence. some of the more common body
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International Female Orgasm Day – 8th August

Woohooo…. Ladies it’s a day of exquisite celebration today! Well in Brazil anyway… Día Internacional del Orgasmo Femenino was started by Arimateio Dantas, Councilman of Espertina, in Brazil. He felt the need to share his ‘sexual debt’ to his wife with everyone, encouraging men and women alike to understand a little more about pleasuring a
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Fetish Friday…

For our first foray into the fetish world I’d like to talk about what fetishism actually is…  In a world that likes to label everything, we in the Sexology arena give the term fetishism to those who get off on or are turned on by inanimate objects. This can be anything really, some of the
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STI Friday…Viral Hepatitis

STI Friday will close off with Viral Hepatitis. So first of all what is it? Viral Hepatitis is the name given to a group of liver infections, which cause inflammation. So in this interesting little group we find Hepatitis A, Hepatitis B, Hepatitis C and an occasional visit from Hepatitis D. So what are they
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Always have something to look forward to…

A ‘romantic getaway’ can be anything from a 5 star resort experience to camping on the beach with no electricity. The essence of the romantic break comes from you and your lover. It is so much better if you are both completely and utterly into it. Spending time away from the routine of home, the
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Most girls hate it!

Lady days, Aunt Flo, Red Zone… periods! A vast majority of females of breading age would say they would prefer not to have to have periods. Especially when it starts, which is usually in the early teen years, when everything is changing and life is really a challenge. Often those first few years, when your
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STI Friday

Today’s guest is a killer…. But not in the usual sense of the word. Chlamydia is a silent killer in that it can be the cause of infertility. Our under 25’s are most at risk, and this is a time when we are avoiding pregnancy at all cost. In fact a period that is a
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STI Friday

STI Friday’s guest of honour today is Syphilis. Syphilis is a bacterial infection that can only live in the mucus membranes in the human body. So mouth, vagina, anus and penis. This feisty little bacteria get in through any tiny tears you may have in these areas, and multiply once they are inside. The infection
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If it’s not on it’s not on!

Has western society finally come to their senses about condom use and safer sex? Current statistics tell us the group with the most new STI infections is the 40-55 age group. Our separated and divorced Empty Nesters are NOT practicing safe sex! But how can this be…? I believe it is a sense of safety
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STI Friday…

It’s Friday again… Today I’m going to talk to you about Herpes. In the western world, it is estimated that half of the population has Herpes Simplex Virus 1(cold sores on the lips) in their system and at least one in eight adults have the Herpes Simplex Virus 2 (genital herpes) in their body. As
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Kamp Konfidence… It’s a girl thing

Yesterday I was invited to speak at Kamp Konfidence by Kamp founder Kortney Olson. The Kamp has been created to encourage teen girls to look beyond peer pressure, form a sisterhood and build healthy self-confidence and respect for self and others. It is just 48 hours, but it makes the world of difference for the
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STI Friday…

It’s Fabulous Friday once again, today’s guest is Genital Warts (HPV)… or should I say guests are Genital Warts as they generally gather in groups. The Human Papilloma Virus (HPV) comes in many varieties. There are over 30 types of HPV, some are considered ‘high risk’, and they are the ones linked to cancer of
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Circumcision = mutilation of an innocent

For those of you who have not read my book yet, I am completely against circumcision. It is an out dated practice that has no valid reasoning. Thankfully I had two daughters, so I did not have to deal with the issue personally… not too much anyway. Their father (now my ex-husband), was ‘done’ as
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STI Friday!

I have decided to cover an STI each Friday for the next few weeks… Today we will start with the least ’dangerous’ but very annoying ‘Crabs’ or Pubic Lice. These little creatures are small, but the adults can be seen without a magnifying glass. They are purpose built to cling comfortably between two pubic hairs.
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How Much Sex Is Normal?

The question most often asked to a Sexologist! There are so many variables, there really is no right or wrong on this topic. What matters is, are you happy with what you have… and are getting? Does it satisfy your sexual desire? Do you feel loved and wanted? Do you trust and respect your partner,
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Teenagers and Sexuality

“I was young once you know…” Have you used this with your teenager yet? If not, be prepared, it will slip out at some point! Most of us do remember what it was like when puberty started setting in. You still felt like a kid, rode your bike on the weekend, and begrudgingly did your
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Sexuality and Aging

When do we actually feel ‘our age’? Most likely when we look in the mirror! I for one certainly don’t feel as old as my passport says I am. How old we feel can often be measured by our physical ability, for example, we just got back from a holiday in Bali. Now most people
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51 Shades of Maggie Muff – very, very funny!

We went to the Twelfth Night Theatre in Brisbane for the Matinee yesterday afternoon, what a fabulous show! If you are able to get in to see Nikki Britton do her thing in this cleaver one woman show, DO IT! http://www.51shadesofmaggie.com.au/gallery.html She had us in stiches, in this parody comedy on 50 Shades. Nikki delvers
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Self-Perception And Your Sexuality

How do you feel about the way you look? Do you think others see you the same way you do? And how much does it worry you? Most of us are overly critical of ourselves, this of course feeds the massive global industry of diet supplements, beauty and cosmetic surgery. How much does your self-perception
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Breast Cancer Awareness

Chrissy Amphlett from the Divinyls wanted her song to become the anthem for Breast Cancer Awareness. That dream has become a reality and released this week, a year after she lost her battle with Cancer. Have you seen the video? It is very raw and very real, take a look via the link. Some of our
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Manscaping… Like it or Loath it?

The scene in “The 40 Year Old Virgin” where he is getting waxed was one of the funniest scenes ever! It generated a lot of interest in the new era of the ‘Metrosexual Man’. Guys, how many of you spend time on waxing, skin care and at the hair dressers now? Most beauticians, once the
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Sex Talk With Your Kids

Sex Talk With Your Kids A difficult topic for some. Are you a parent? How do you go when you are talking to your kids about sex and sexuality? Have they ever asked you a question that made you feel uncomfortable? I have always been very open with my two daughters, given what I do,
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Sex Ed… Did You Get Enough?

My first ebook is available NOW, with loads of interesting info inside. Everyone who has read it so far has told me they learned something new, including my step son (22 years old). Most people under 30 got a much better introduction to “Sex Ed” than those of us a little older. Now I know
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Why do some people cheat?

Why do some people cheat? Why is it that some adults in a monogamous relationship choose to step outside that circle of trust and have an intimate moment or more with someone else? There are a multitude of different reasons and if you speak to someone who has cheated, they will most likely give you
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Cindy Gallop at TEDxOxford

I love Cindy Gallop’s approach at the TED talks… It is all so true! if you have not seen this yet it really is worth your time. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hm7cVImCJ6U What do you think?

 

Clever French Comedy

If you haven’t seen this yet… check it out, I think it is funny and very clever! http://vimeo.com/87795511 Why do we find this so titillating? Is it a fear that they will drop the towel and we will… or won’t look away? Or perhaps we enjoy watching someone challenge themselves? Is it sheer relief that
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Female Viagra…?

The Sunday Mail included an article about the release in the United Kingdom of the  ‘little pink pill’. The Manufacturers of ‘Lady Prelox’ claim the herbal mix containing an extract of French pine bark “encourages blood flow to the reproductive organs…”. It boosts Libido and increases arousal in women. How do you feel about this
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What makes a great lover?

What indeed! One person could describe you as a great lover and the next person may not. Having a good understanding of the anatomy of the opposite sex is a good start (for the hetro and bi folks out there). Do you know the erogenous zones that tip your lovers over into that heady euphoria
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Relationship Stress… Is it time to walk away?

I have had people ask on more than a few occasions… when did you know you were going to leave your husband (first husband)? For me it was a few hours after our 2nd daughter was born. He was bitterly disappointed that I had produced another girl… he was convinced the second child would be
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Sex and Romance

On Valentine’s Day the thought of romance and sensual love with someone special come to the fore. It is a time when we make a special effort to look our best, put on our favourite perfume or manfume, and arrange dinner at a great restaurant. What are you motives for this ritual? Do you feel
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Valentine’s Day… oh the pressure!

Saint Valentine’s Day is celebrated on February 14 each year. Its origins date back to the Christian Romans, They had a few martyrs named Valentine that were honoured on Feb 14. Fast forward to 18th century England and we find it has evolved into a day where lovers express their feelings through gifts of chocolates
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